That's all we seem to be doing lately. Waiting to hear how much longer my husband has to be gone. He was only supposed to be gone for 3 months. Meaning he was due to be home in September. He got bumped back a bit, so we figure no big deal. My daughter and I hopped on a flight and visited him for about a week and a half. We came home thinking he'd be hot on our tails.
Now here we are at the end of October, and he's still gone. I'm starting to get annoyed now. Deployments on the ship were longer, so I know I can handle it in that regard. We are lucky he can Skype almost daily where he is, too. I had a wonderful support system when he was on the ship though. Here things are quite different. I spend about 5 days a week just me and my daughter. The other 2 are days where I take her to playgroup or toddler time at the library. Yes, other mom's talk to me, but it's not the same. Before it was also just me and now we have an almost 2-year-old daughter. She will ask for daddy, or will get the laptop and want to call him. None of this is what we bargained for when taking shore duty orders. To us, that meant while he might work longer hours, he'd be home every night and every weekend.
It's also time to start waiting on orders. Michael put in for orders this week, so now we wait and wait some more to hear our fate. I feel like our options are all lame at this point. We are done and getting out in about 15 months, so it doesn't leave many options open to us. His options are looking like we stay here, do unaccompanied orders for the last year, or he goes to a ship. No matter what he will be away from home. He's put in for the unaccompanied orders though. This would mean he goes alone and the rest of the family moves back to the U.S. That is the only plus side to this. At least we get the comforts of home rather than being stuck here in Sicily. We can be in a place where we can easily get around, visit family, and hopefully settled in a house for once.
This doesn't mean they won't come back and say sorry you guys are staying put, or we need you on the ship though. So, we wait and see if we get what he consider the lesser of the evils, or if we just get stuck with what the Navy wants. Our waiting could be just a couple weeks, or it could be a few months before we know anything for sure. I'm hoping we know sooner though.
UPDATE 10/25: He did NOT put in the orders. Decided we needed some more time to talk about my concerns about him going unaccompanied. It's a big decision to make voluntarily, so we want to make sure it's right for our family before we just jump into it. Hopefully they don't just stick us elsewhere while we decide though...
Now here we are at the end of October, and he's still gone. I'm starting to get annoyed now. Deployments on the ship were longer, so I know I can handle it in that regard. We are lucky he can Skype almost daily where he is, too. I had a wonderful support system when he was on the ship though. Here things are quite different. I spend about 5 days a week just me and my daughter. The other 2 are days where I take her to playgroup or toddler time at the library. Yes, other mom's talk to me, but it's not the same. Before it was also just me and now we have an almost 2-year-old daughter. She will ask for daddy, or will get the laptop and want to call him. None of this is what we bargained for when taking shore duty orders. To us, that meant while he might work longer hours, he'd be home every night and every weekend.
It's also time to start waiting on orders. Michael put in for orders this week, so now we wait and wait some more to hear our fate. I feel like our options are all lame at this point. We are done and getting out in about 15 months, so it doesn't leave many options open to us. His options are looking like we stay here, do unaccompanied orders for the last year, or he goes to a ship. No matter what he will be away from home. He's put in for the unaccompanied orders though. This would mean he goes alone and the rest of the family moves back to the U.S. That is the only plus side to this. At least we get the comforts of home rather than being stuck here in Sicily. We can be in a place where we can easily get around, visit family, and hopefully settled in a house for once.
This doesn't mean they won't come back and say sorry you guys are staying put, or we need you on the ship though. So, we wait and see if we get what he consider the lesser of the evils, or if we just get stuck with what the Navy wants. Our waiting could be just a couple weeks, or it could be a few months before we know anything for sure. I'm hoping we know sooner though.
UPDATE 10/25: He did NOT put in the orders. Decided we needed some more time to talk about my concerns about him going unaccompanied. It's a big decision to make voluntarily, so we want to make sure it's right for our family before we just jump into it. Hopefully they don't just stick us elsewhere while we decide though...
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